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Therapy Jeff’s Big Dating Energy is filled with woo
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I really liked Therapy Jeff but his new podcast is really strange. I thought it was about dating. But then he released an episode with a “psychic” talking about spirit guides as if it is fact (I couldn’t even finish it) and now there is an episode about astrology. Within the first 5 min the ‘professional’ astrologist guest claims the sun is the brightest star in the galaxy which just isn’t true.
Really makes me question him and any therapists who buy into or promote this bs. It’s just as bad as the Christian therapist that told me to pray about my eating disorder. Goodbye credibility!
Anyway, I’m just wondering if anyone else feels like this. Maybe he’s run out of things to talk about or is trying to grift the new age stuff. I’m all for keeping my mind open but this insane stuff is being posed as fact. Weird vibes.
Top Comment: Doesn't he shill for better help too? I'm sure he's well meaning but he does have weird takes often and seems to be doing this all as a business venture.
Is height really such a big deal in dating?
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I keep hearing quotes on insta like 'ladies, always go for tall men.' And, 'keep your standards high and stay away from short men' etc etc.' However, irl I see plenty of guys, as short as 5'4 dating beautiful women (some even taller than them without heels).
Moreover, I personally knew 3 girls, all of whom when single were saying that they will not give a chance to a guy less than 6ft have now boyfriends who are all 5'6 - 5'8 range.
Moreover, some of the most desired men from footballers like Leo Messi to actors like Daniel Radcliff and Gael Garcia are all below 5'8. So is this height craze just superficial and overhyped statement and not such a dealbreaker in real life for dating?
Top Comment: u/Crimson_Nightwing , you don't need to be tall or short, but you have to answer people down in this thread , or we'll remove it.
Leo only dating girls under 25 isn’t that big of a deal.
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Sure, it’s a little weird he doesn’t seem to date girls even slightly closer to his age, but by the time you’re 23 or 24 you’re definitely mature enough to make your own decisions, and a lot of women prefer older guys anyway.
So long as his relationships are non-coercive and mutually respectable, I really don’t see the big deal.
Top Comment: I think people get a bit detached from these subjects when it's just theory. I have a 21 year old cousin dating a 36 year old, and let me tell you it's weird. Seeing them next to each other is fucking weird. Our UNCLE is 48 years old! I can't even imagine it. Ew. No one is policing him or the women, just commenting how it's weird. It's gossip.
How's dating/married life while in Big Law?
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What's your personal experience or observations you have seen for dating and married life in Big Law?
For those married and unmarried? Does it suffer? Do people find a way to make it work somehow?
Curious.
Top Comment: Long term relationship with a non-lawyer. Tough months are really tough - even with WFH "seeing" my SO during tough weeks can literally just mean accepting a peck on the cheek at night,, a good morning, and empty promises to "get to the dishes tomorrow." Overall we both have demanding schedules so it works out (though mine is way less forgiving). There is a shared sense that this is a sacrifice for something greater but she definitely worries about my health (so do i). I can't imagine dating while doing this job. But I'm also kind of a "try hard" at work I think because i otherwise have a secure relationship and eventual family goals but no kids yet. Less things absolutely demanding my time. It's tough. But it's totally doable. Many colleagues have kids and SOs despite an insane practice pace. I was worried going in that this job would break us because my SO is my life priority. But it's worked out okay.
Is 19[F] and 25[M] too big of an age gap?
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Usually don’t date girls this young, but I’m considering giving her some air time because we met at church and have the same religious views. She’s a sophomore in uni, I’m in grad school. I’m warming up to the idea, but it still makes me slightly uneasy.
Specifically interested in hearing from women.
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How do you even start dating as a late bloomer?
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I don't want to sound dramatic, but to be honest, the idea of being in relationship seems as unattainable to me as something like winning the lottery. I've been through 4 years of high school, 4 years of university, joined multiple clubs, volunteered, worked multiple different part time jobs, tried my best to "put myself out there" and meet people but I dunno. It just never happened. I've never even had so much as a talking stage or even developed a crush.
I'd say me never having a relationship is part of a greater problem, and that's that I don't really have any friends or a social life.
I just don't meet people. I won't give my whole life story, but through a combination of covid and moving cities, my 20's have been super lonely, without a doubt i'm the most depressed i've ever been. I was really shy during high school, and I told myself I was going to turn over a new leaf and try to be more social in university, but then covid happened, which ruined everything and I never quite recovered. I started university around the same time covid happened, and it's usually during the first few years when people make their close friends, so I didn't really make any friends.
I'm 25, and I know a lot of people will try to comfort me and say "don't worry, 25 is young!" but I fully understand that reaching this age with no relationship experience whatsoever is questionable at best, and creepy at worst. I mean, there are teenagers over a decade younger than me with more relationship experience.
Almost every person my age has experienced heartbreak multiple times and the formative experience that comes with being in a relationship, while I haven't even been on a single date. I just don't know how I'm supposed to transition from years and years of loneliness, to sometimes going entire days without talking to anyone, to regularly going on dates and having healthy relationships.
And on top of that, even if by some miracle I did get a relationship, what kind of woman wants to date a man with basically no friends? Then it's like "well get some more friends before you worry about getting a relationship", but making friends at this age is damn near impossible. Pretty much everyone knows that after university, you're mostly stuck with the friend group you have. I feel like most people who give the advice of "just get a hobby" or "talk to someone at a bar", who think that you should try and force awkward interactions in hopes that it will create a friendship, have never done that themselves, and instead just naturally met people without putting too much thought into it. Making friends and social connections is lot like making money. You need money to make money, and you need friends to make friends.
Top Comment: I kind of latched on to “I never even developed a crush”. Do you actually meet people on a regular basis that you’re physically/emotionally attracted to? If you aren’t that’s going to make dating difficult regardless. I only meet men I find physically and emotionally attractive once every few years. It makes dating difficult especially since not everyone will be single/interested. How many people are you asking on dates? Are you attracted these people? If so, why?